In my work, I see many people stuck in negative patterns that do not serve them well. To me, wellness of our minds is improved when we start to see the world through a more positive lens. A positive mindset is based on gratitude. Lift your gaze and see the best in our lives if you can.
Despite how bad my lived experiences seemed at times in my life, I always try to be grateful for what I do have and what I feel. I am grateful for my sons, for those who love me, for my health, for my dogs and horses, for my old Holden that does what it needs to do, I acknowledge my privilege and grateful for those who have helped me in so many ways. Gee, I even feel greatful when I have a full tank of petrol, good boots and a warm coat that fits well. I'm grateful to live in a country like ours, grateful to walk in the bush and take in the beauty of it all.
Like any skill, gratitude can be learned and strengthened. Here are some tips on how to practice gratitude:
Each day, think of three things you’re thankful for.
Make it a daily habit to visualize what’s good in your life. This can directly impact your mood throughout the day, as well as your sleep quality. In fact, research suggests this may be a useful tool when initiating treatment against depression. To make it more powerful, it is advised to devote at least ten minutes to this practice, rather than quickly coming up with ideas. Writing down these three things you are thankful for is a great way to complete this exercise, and it is useful to come back and read them at the end of the week.
Start a gratitude journal.
Journaling can be an excellent self-therapy technique. When you write, you use different parts of your brain and access memories and emotions from a new perspective. A gratitude journal has been proven to activate brain areas that are related to morality and positive emotions. People who could find purpose and feel grateful for the good things to come out of a challenging situation show higher resilience, forgiveness, and detachment. Reading your own words of gratefulness can help you feel better when struggling to be positive.
Thank someone new every week.
There are many people around us, and we are all connected somehow. How often do we take the time to express gratitude more consciously or thoughtfully? We might say thank you to the person who assists us at the supermarket checkout or thank our partner for setting the table, but do we take the time to make it meaningful? Give yourself the purpose of choosing someone new each week and learn how to express gratitude differently. This could mean adopting a more conscious non-verbal communication (like eye contact and a smile), writing a thoughtful message acknowledging others’ behaviour and its positive effects on you, or saying thank you with a nice gift or gesture (like a shoulder massage).
When it comes to gratitude, meditation can take us as deep as it gets. Different guided meditations allow us to widen our perspective of life and our connection to ourselves and other beings. Meditation can promote acceptance, detachment, forgiveness, and thus, gratitude. We can also take this moment to imagine a specific situation we are grateful for and let the feeling grow and become stronger.
Focus more on others' intentions.
When you receive a gift or a nice gesture from someone, consider how they intended to bring good into your life. Take a moment to visualise their willingness to help you, make you feel happy, or be there for you during a challenging time.
Final thoughts on gratitude
Gratitude is, without question, a great emotion to cultivate. Hopefully, we can make it a habit that translates into a trait. Don't forget that practice and patience are key ingredients to our purposes and intentions. Start your practice today.